How To Disassociate Yourself From Depression by Adam Khoo

Do you know someone who is always depressed? They may have had bad experiences a long time ago, but they still get upset by these long past incidents?

I had a woman client who told me that her life was full of misery.
When she talked about her bad experiences, she started crying and
got very upset. I found out that she had a pattern of associating
into all her painful memories. So, even though these incidents took
place about five years ago, she still felt extremely miserable
whenever she thought about them.

When I asked her to relate happy experiences in her life, she
thought for a while but couldn't feel anything. She said, 'I don't
feel for these (happy) experiences anymore.' Guess why? She had a
pattern of disassociating from all her happy experiences, and
associating into her negative ones!

No wonder she felt depressed constantly. When I taught her that she
could consciously direct her mind to disassociate from all her bad
experiences and associate into all her happy experiences, she began
to take control over her emotions. The change was quite rapid.

When she thought of her bad experiences and disassociated, she
started to feel the emotional intensity of the pain drop. Then I
got her to start thinking of all her happy experiences and
associating into them! Her face started glowing and she said she
felt a lot better about herself. Since then, she has consciously
been taking charge of the way her brain codes her experiences.

Do you know people who are the complete opposite? We call them the
happy-go-lucky ones. Such people could have had some horrific
experiences but they get over the bad patches very fast. Soon they
are into a positive state and have moved on in life.

At the same time these cheery people can think back to the good
things that happened to them, say five years ago, and feel happy
and excited, all over again.

Why do they feel so differently about their good and bad
experiences from the negative bunch? Again, it is because of the
way the cheery people's brains have coded their memories. They tend
to immediately disassociate from negative events they experience.
Although they learn from their mistakes, they don't feel
emotionally drained thinking about it.

At the same time, they tend to associate or plug into all their
happy positive experiences. So they keep feeling the positive vibes
of happy events, even after years have passed.

This is one of the most important qualities to have in order to be
a successful entrepreneur, chief executive, politician, investor or
salesperson.

And it's something you can use right now to supercharge yourself
towards success and achieving your goals!

What Drives Us Forward? by Adam Khoo

If taking action is the key to producing results, why doesn'teverybody take action? Why doesn't everybody follow through on their plans? Why is it that so many people know what they should do, but still don't do it?

The most common reasons are: 'I lack motivation', 'I'm too lazy','I don't feel confident' or 'I am afraid that...' Is this true for you as well? If you are like most people, you would probably be nodding your head.

For example, you know that you should start exercising three times a week, but you put it off because you feel lazy. As a salesperson,you know you should make ten cold calls a day, but you don't do it because you don't feel like being rejected. You know that public speaking will help your career, but you don't get on stage and face the audience because you feel the fear.

At the same time, there are many things we do, knowing full well that we shouldn't! Why is that so? That's because we feel like doing it.

For example, you know that eating that extra piece of delicious chocolate cake is bad for your weight/health but you still do it because you feel greedy. You know that you shouldn't go back to sleep when the alarm rings, but you still lie in because it feel so good.

Have you ever experienced a day when you managed to get a lot of things done? When your ideas flowed, when you made the best decisions and you were absolutely on form? Well on those 'top of form' days, you were in a series of resourceful states.

Then again, have you had days when you couldn't get anything done?When you couldn't do anything right? You said and did the most stupid things? How could this happen? You were the same person and had exactly the same resources available to you. The difference was that you were not in a resourceful state.

If you think about it, 'motivation', 'fear', 'confidence', 'inertia - expressed as procrastination', are nothing but emotional states we experience. Emotional 'States' like 'excitement', 'passion', 'confidence', and 'happiness', 'exhilaration 'get us to take action and perform at our peak.

At the same time, states like ' fear', 'anxiety', 'stress','inertia', 'depression', 'tiredness' hold us back. It is not logic that drives our actions. It is our emotions. Very often, we know that logically we should do something, but we don't do it because we don't feel like doing it.

People who take consistent action and produce great results do so because they experience many more resourceful states on a daily basis. It is truly our emotional 'states' that drive our actions and behaviors all the time. How we feel truly determines what we do and how we do it.

It is these empowering states that allow us to get the best out of themselves!