Reframing: The Art of Changing Meaning-Adam Khoo

So, how we represent (frame) our experiences determines how we respond and the outcomes we achieve. Therefore we must learn to constantly frame experiences ways that empower us, and empower the people around us.

When you change the way you represent (frame) something, you totally change the meaning and the emotions associated with that experience. As a result, you change the decisions you make and the actions you take.

You must learn how to create resourceful meanings out of every experience. Successful leaders and entrepreneurs do this to empower themselves and others to reach their goals.The process of turning a negative experience into a positive one is called reframing.

There are two ways you can do this, Content Reframing and Context Reframing.

Content Reframing…
Content reframing is the process of changing a negative experience into a positive one by changing the meaning of the experience. Remember, every event has multiple meanings. The meaning we choose to focus on is what becomes real for us. The best way to do a content reframe is to ask the question,‘What else can this mean?’ ‘How can this benefit or empower me instead of depressing me?’

For example, if the recession hit when you were about to start your business, you could content reframe it by saying,‘Good! This means that business costs, like rental and salaries,will be lower and allow us to break even faster’.Or you could say, ‘Good! This means prospective clients will be more open to listening to suppliers who offer better value for money.’ There are multiple reasons why starting a business in a
recession will be a positive experience!

Context Reframing…

Another way to reframe an experience is to do a context reframe. A context reframe is the process of changing a negative experience into a positive one by changing the context from which it is perceived.

Have you ever had a negative experience only to look back at it five years later and say, ‘That was a blessing in disguise?’ In a different context (i.e. the future), the meaning of that experience changed from bad to good.
In doing a context reframe, you must ask the question, ‘In a different time or place, how would the meaning be beneficial?’ You see, everything that seems bad now, when put into a different time or place, could appear beneficial.

Going back to the first example of starting a business in a recession, you could use a context reframe by saying, ‘When the economy picks up, the company will be positioned to do very well as it has been tested and strengthened by the recession’.

Now, imagine that you, or someone you know, are experiencing the following scenarios. How would you reframe each negative experience to empower that person or yourself?Take some time and think of as many ways as you can to reframe each experience.

Auto-Suggestion

What is auto-suggestion?

 An auto-suggestion is a statement made in the present tense, of the kind of person you want to be. Auto-suggestions are like writing a commercial to yourself about yourself, for yourself. They influence both your conscious and subconscious mind which in turn influence attitude and behavior.

Auto-suggestions are a way to program your subconscious mind. They can be either positive or negative.

Examples of negative auto-suggestions are:
¨ I'm tired.
¨ I'm not an athlete.
¨ I have a poor memory.
¨ I'm not good at math.

When we repeat to ourselves a negative auto-suggestion, our subconscious mind believes it and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and starts reflecting in our behavior. For example, when I am talking to someone and I forget what I had to say, I tell the other person, "See, I forgot what I wanted to say. I have such a poor memory."

People who come into contact with crime the first time, hate it. With constant exposure they get used to it and if the exposure is long enough, they may embrace it. And they become creators of their own misfortune.

When a person repeats a belief long enough, it sinks into the subconscious and becomes reality. A lie repeated long enough becomes accepted as the truth.

Positive auto-suggestions are being widely used in the field of sports and medicine. Why make positive statements? Because we want to create a picture in our minds of what we want to have rather than what we don't. Any picture that we hold in our mind becomes reality. Auto-suggestions are a process of repetition. A person who repeats a statement long enough lets it sink into the subconscious mind. For example, I am relaxed. I am cool, calm and collected.

Auto-suggestions should not be practiced in a negative way I am not tense. I won't be angry.

Positive statements are made because we think in pictures and not in words. If I say "Don't think of the blue elephant," what is the first picture that comes to your mind? The blue elephant.

If I say "mother," what comes to your mind? A picture of your mother. Did you start spelling m-o-t-h-e-r? Of course not! When a negative word comes in the auto-suggestion, it forms a negative picture which we want to avoid.

Why in the present tense? Because our mind cannot tell the difference between a real experience and an imagined one. For example, parents are expecting their child to come home at 9:30 p.m. but the kid is not home and it is now 1 a.m. What is going through the parents' mind? They are probably hoping everything's okay. "I hope the kid didn't get into an accident." What is happening to their blood pressure? It is going up! This is an imagined experience. The reality could be that the kid is having fun at a party, is irresponsible, and did not get home when he was supposed to.

Now reverse the scenario. Supposing the kid was very responsible and was actually coming home at 9:30 p.m. but got into an accident, and still didn't get home at 1 a.m. What is happening to the parents' blood pressure? It is still going up! The first scenario was an imagined experience. The second one was a real experience but the body's response in both cases was identical. Our mind cannot tell the difference between a real and an imagined experience.

Prepare the Subsconscious
How can we use auto-suggestions to eliminate negative habits and develop positive ones? We have all used auto-suggestions unconsciously. For example, when you have to catch an early morning flight, you automatically tell yourself that you have got to get up. And invariably, you do (sometimes, even without an alarm clock). A prepared subconscious mind has hunches and gut feelings.

Auto-suggestion is a way to program and condition our mind to make a statement into a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Auto-suggestion is a repetitive process through which we feed our subconscious with positive statements which translate into reality. Repetition alone is not enough, unless it is accompanied by emotions and feelings.

Auto-suggestions without visualization will not produce results. The first time our mind receives an autosuggestion it rejects it. Why? It is an alien thought, contrary to our belief system. Success would depend on our ability to concentrate and repeat the process.

Steps to follow on auto-suggestions.

1. Go to a spot where you won't be disturbed.

2. Write down your suggestions.

The self-discipline to finish what one starts, is imperative. Auto-suggestion is a powerful character building tool.
Translating Auto-Suggestion into Reality

1. Make a list of your auto-suggestions in the present tense.

2. Repeat auto-suggestions at least twice a day: first thing in the morning and at the end of the day. This is because in the morning, the mind is fresh and receptive and at night you deposit the positive picture into your subconscious overnight.

3. Repeat it consecutively for 21 days until it becomes a habit.

4. Auto-suggestions alone will not work. They need visualization.

VISUALIZATION
Visualization is the process of creating and seeing a mental picture of the kind of thing you want to have or do, or the kind of person you want to be. Visualization goes hand in hand with auto-suggestion. Auto-suggestion without visualization is mechanical repetition and will be ineffective. In order to see results, auto-suggestion must be accompanied by feelings and emotions (visualization).

CAUTION! Auto-suggestion may not be acceptable to the mind the first time you do it because it is an alien thought. For example, if for the past few decades I have believed that I have a poor memory and now all of a sudden, I tell myself, "I have a good memory!", my mind will throw it out, saying, "You liar! You have a bad memory!" Because that is what it has believed up to this point. It will take 21 days to dispel this notion. Why 21 days? Because it takes a minimum of 21 days of conscious, consecutive practice to formulate a habit.

THE POWER OF SELFTALK PART -2

The Power of Negative Self-Talk

Leading behavioral researchers have told us that as much as SEVENTY-SEVEN PERCENT of everything we think is negative, counterproductive, and works against us Year after year, word by word, our life scripts are etched. Layer by layer our selfimages are created. Hundreds, even thousands of times, we tell ourselves the same words and thoughts repeatedly of what we cannot do, cannot and will never accomplish. Repetition is a convincing argument! And as we begin to believe what we are hearing it begins to become true.

If everything you tell yourself about yourself becomes a directive to your subconscious mind, then any time you make a statement about yourself that is negative you are directing your subconscious mind to make you become the person you just described . . . negatively! For example, let’s consider the common problem of not being able to remember names.For twenty-five years you may have said to yourself, “I can never remember names.” Then one evening you go to a party. You are introduced to someone whose name you want to remember and you say to yourself, “I’m going to remember this person’s name.” What happens ten seconds later? You forget the name! Why? Because for the past twenty-five years you have been telling yourself that that’s what you’ll do. You have been PROGRAMMING yourself to forget!

The Good News is, It’s Not Too Late to Change
You can reprogram your mental computer in new, more life enhancing ways which will have a positive impact on your behavior, your attitude, your capabilities, your outcomes.The key to reprogramming our own brains is realizing our alternatives. We have a choice each time we think: to think or react positively or negatively. Pay attention and you’ll begin to hear your inner voice chattering away. Whenever you hear yourself thinking a negative word,phrase, or sentence, immediately translate it into a positive. Whether you “believe” it’s true yet,or not, change your reaction as soon as you recognize its negativity.

Repetition convinces the mind that what you are telling it is true. If these types of sentences and questions have come into your mind for years, the programming is deeply imbedded. In order to discover whether or not you use this type of self-sabotaging Self-Talk,here’s what you can do. It’s easy: over the next few days and weeks, simply pay attention.Listen to yourself. Become aware of what runs through your mind as you chatter to yourself all day long. Well, okay, maybe it’s not easy. But it’s worth the effort.

Begin to notice if you automatically use these words, make such statements, or ask these types of questions of yourself. (If so, be sure not to judge or be angry or critical of your mind. Be objective, detached. Rest assured that it’s okay if this has happened in the past. You didn’t realize the impact your own thoughts were having on you. And you didn’t know you had the choice to change what you say, how you react, what questions you ask yourself. The time has come to revise some of your thinking and create the results you truly desire.)

The Final Step
Each time you notice a self-defeating word, sentence, question surfacing in your mind –
1. Catch it.
2. Write it down.
3. Then, in order to cancel, erase, eliminate, eradicate the negative influence our own selfdefeating thoughts can have on our lives, take each one, one at a time, and make-up a replacement which contains positive, constructive, optimistic, encouraging, or supportive Self-Talk.

THE POWER OF SELF TALK-PART 1

The word ‘self-talk’ may sound funny to start with for it might evoke a picture of someone walking down a busy street talking to himself in a nutty kind of way. Of course this is not so.

Actually we all talk to ourselves all the time but on a subconscious level. We may not be aware of it but a lot of actions and decisions we take are a result of subconscious self-talk.

We think no one will hear what we talk within our mind , If we see a person or in a situation we say or Talk within ourselves in the mind with reference to the opinion  we have about that person or situation, There will be a continuous internal dialogue going in the mind.

The problem with most of us is that we aren’t aware of the impact of our own thinking on our lives, our health ,our circumstances, and indeed, on our own minds. If you tell yourself (frequently) that you or your life circumstances are getting worse in some way,watch out! You’re programming that thought to come true whether you want it to or not.

In order to examine your own thinking, first consider what you are saying all day long as you continuously talk to yourself. Notice the words you use, become aware of the sentences you form in your mind, especially pay attention to those words and thoughts which come up automatically again and again.

You can do anything you want to do within your own mind. Think about how you would like to have things go and re-program your self-talk to insure that this outcome will occur.

First things first. Let’s examine our own self-talk.
You’ve got to catch yourself in the act of talking away. Not to pass judgment, blame, or “make yourself wrong” but simply to create an awareness of your self-talk. Once you notice a particular habitual thought pattern, examine it as if from a distance. Step back, be objective, and consider whether or not that thought serves your best interests, or sabotages your future outcomes.

Do YOU recognize any of the following statements as your own?
“I can’t remember.” “I always forget.” “I have a terrible memory.” “My mind is going, I must be getting old.” “I’m so stupid.” “I can never remember names.” “I’m just no good at remembering things anymore.” “I may as well give up, I’ll never be able to remember that anyway.” “There I go again; I do this every time.”

Emerging research shows that there are indelible links between what we say to ourselves and what happens to us.“What we put into our brains is what we will get back out”. Whether we realize it or not, we’ re all engaged in a nearly constant subconscious dialogue with ourselves.

Our behavior, feelings, sense of self-esteem, and even our level of stress are influenced by our inner speech.

The subconscious will work hard to manifest whatever you tell it. So if you are frequently programming your mind with statements such as “I’m becoming more forgetful all the time” or “I can never remember names” or “I keep forgetting where I put things” – you’re increasing the probability that it will all become what’s true for you. You are implementing the law of the “self fulfilling prophesy”.

What you expect to happen is far more likely to happen. The brain is like a computer and a computer’ s capabilities are strictly determined by its programming. Program it poorly and GIGO (Garbage In, Garbage Out); program it properly, and it’s at your service for accomplishing incredible things…………….. to be continued

Subconscious Mind Power

Please see below the videos on subconscious Mind,Learn how it can be used for the growth of us and others.

The Power of subconscious Mind

Our brain is "divided" into two sections: the conscious and the subconscious. You've heard scientists say that we only use 10% of our mind, mostly conscious. The subconscious is much bigger and more powerful. This section of the brain controls about 90% of the rest of our brain. Can you imagine how your life would change if you used the power of subconscious mind to it's fullest? Yes, we can use the magic power of subconscious mind to improve our lives. 

What does our subconscious do?

The subconscious mind is there to protect us, to keep us alive. Everything we experience in life with our five senses, all that we can see, hear, feel, taste or smell is sent for future processing and storage to our powerful subconscious mind.

Our subconscious mind creates a reference to these events. Let's say you’ve had some negative experience in your life, so your conscious mind has sent input of that experience to your subconscious mind for processing and storage. If you ever face the similar event later in your life, your subconscious mind will automatically recall the negative experience and will send you sensations, emotions and images. It remembers your past experiences and how to respond to any input from all your senses and your thoughts.

Good example of it is hot kettle. Subconscious mind remembers that kettle can be hot and can hurt; otherwise we would keep on making the same mistakes.

Our subconscious mind is multitasking and can do several automated tasks at the same time as walking, breathing, keeping the heart beating etc.

It works for us 24 hours a day without taking rest.

Another great example of the power of subconscious mind is driving your car. When you drive a car, you do it automatically without even thinking how to do it, you just drive.

The good thing is that we can use the power of subconscious mind to achieve out goals and dreams. You can program your subconscious mind to improve any aspect of your life.

All your thoughts, actions and experiences that are received through conscious mind, are recorded and stored in subconscious mind, but the subconscious mind does not know the difference in what you perceive as reality and what is imagined. The subconscious mind can only think literally. It also does not understand the humor.

The great tool to program the subconscious mind for the success is visualization. It allows you to consciously attract what you want. You need to visualize images of positive desired result on a daily basis. Include feeling and emotions. 

Thinking only good and positive thoughts is also very effective way of programming of subconscious mind. You have the power to choose your thoughts. Be aware of your thoughts, control them. Whatever you think, your conscious mind sends to subconscious mind and your subconscious mind accepts it as true. Don't say "I will fail", "I can't do this", and "I can't afford it". Your subconscious mind accepts these statements as true.

Train your conscious mind to think of success, happiness, joy, prosperity, health and love. 

Use the power of your subconscious mind to bring into your life success, money, a job, a house, a car or anything else. Repeat your positive affirmations daily. Feel the joy of achievement and success as you repeat them to yourself. 

We were born with the power of subconscious mind; we just never used it to it's fullest.

If you have a strong desire to succeed, you will unleash the power of subconscious mind.

The law of Attraction Part II

When you focus your thoughts on something you want, and you

hold that focus, you are in that moment summoning what you

want with the mightiest power in the Universe. The law of attraction
doesn't compute "don't" or "not" or "no," or any other words
of negation. As you speak words of negation, this is what the law
of attraction is receiving:

"I don't want to spill something on this outfit."
"I want to spill something on this outfit and I want to spill
more things."

"I don't want to be delayed."
"I want delays."

"I don't want that person to be rude to me."
"I want that person and more people to be rude to me."

"I don't want the restaurant to give away our table."
"I want restaurants to give away our tables."

"I can't handle all this work."
"I want more work than I can handle."

"I don't want to catch the flu."
"I want the flu and I want to catch more things."

"I don't want to argue."
"I want more arguing."


Whether we realize it or not, we are thinking most of the time. If
you are speaking or listening to someone, you are thinking. If you
are reading the newspaper or watching television, you are thinking.

When you recall memories from your past, you are thinking.
When you are considering something in your future, you are
thinking. When you are driving, you are thinking. When you arc
getting ready in the morning, you are thinking. For many of us,
the only time we are not thinking is when we are asleep; however,
the forces of attraction are still operating on our last thoughts as
we fall asleep. Make your last thoughts before going to sleep good
thoughts.

Creation is always happening. Every time an individual has
a thought, or a prolonged chronic way of thinking, they're in
the creation process. Something is going to manifest out of
those thoughts.

What you are thinking now is creating your future life. You create
your life with your thoughts. Because you are always thinking, you
are always creating. What you think about the most or focus on the
most is what will appear as your life.

Like all the laws of nature, there is utter perfection in this law. You create
your life. Whatever you sow, you reap! Your thoughts are seeds,
and the harvest you reap will depend on the seeds you plant.
If you are complaining, the law of attraction will powerfully bring
into your life more situations for you to complain about. If you are
listening to someone else complain and focusing on that sympathizing
with them, agreeing with them, in that moment, you are
attracting more situations to yourself to complain about.

The law is simply reflecting and giving back to you exactly what
you are focusing on with your thoughts. With this powerful knowledge,
you can completely change every circumstance and event in
your entire life, by changing the way you think.

The law of attraction Part-I

We live in a universe in which there are laws, just as there is a law of gravity,there is law of Attraction.

• The Great Secret of Life is the law of attraction.

• The law of attraction says like attracts like,so when you think athought,you are also attracting like   thoughts  to you.

Thoughts are magnetic, and thoughts have a frequency. As you think
thoughts, they are sent out into the Universe, and they magnetically
attract all like things that are on the same frequency. Everything sent
out returns to the source—you.

• You are like a human transmission tower, transmitting a frequency with your thoughts.

• Your current thoughts are creating your future life. What you think about the most or focus on the most will appear as your life.

• Your thoughts become things.

You are the most powerful magnet in the Universe! You contain a magnetic power within you that is more powerful than anything in this world, and this unfathomable magnetic power is emitted through your thoughts.

The law of attraction says like attracts like, and so as you think a thought, you are also attracting like thoughts to you.

Here are more examples you may have experienced of the law of attraction in your life:

Have you ever started to think about something you were not happy about, and the more you thought about it the worse it seemed? That's because as you think one sustained thought, the law of attraction immediately brings more like thoughts to you. In a matter of minutes, you have gotten so many like unhappy thoughts coming to you that the situation seems to be getting worse. The more you think about it, the more upset you get.

You may have experienced attracting like thoughts when you think of person you like and then suddenly the person may be in front or they may give a ring as we usually say I was thinking of you just now ,you are here or you called me.The Person’s thought just kept playing over and over in your mind. even though you may not have realized it, you gave your full attention and focus of thought to it. As you did that, you were powerfully attracting more like thoughts of that person and so the law of attraction moved into action and delivered more thoughts of that person over and over again.

Your life right now is a reflection of your past thoughts. That includes
all the great things, and all the things you consider not so
great. Since you attract to you what you think about most, it is easy
to see what your dominant thoughts have been on every subject of
your life, because that is what you have experienced. Until now!
Now you are learning The Secret, and with this knowledge, you
can change everything.

Thoughts become things!

Through this most powerful law, your thoughts become the things
in your life. Your thoughts become things! Say this over to yourself
and let it seep into your consciousness and your awareness. Your
thoughts become things!

What most people don't understand is that a thought has
a frequency. We can measure a thought. And so if you're
thinking that thought over and over and over again, if you're
imagining in your mind having that brand new car, having
the money that you need, building that company, finding your
soul mate... if you're imagining what that looks like, you're
emitting that frequency on a consistent basis.

Thoughts are sending out that magnetic signal that is
drawing the parallel back to you.

"The predominant thought or the mental attitude is the magnet, and the law is that like attracts like, consequently, the mental attitude will invariably attract such conditions as correspond to its nature."

Thoughts are magnetic, and thoughts have a frequency. As you
think, those thoughts are sent out into the Universe, and they
magnetically attract all like things that are on the same frequency.
Everything sent out returns to the source. And that source is
You.

Think of it this way: we understand that a television station's transmission
tower broadcasts via a frequency, which is transformed
into pictures on your television. Most of us don't really understand
how it works, but we know that each channel has a frequency,
and when we tune into that frequency we see the pictures on our
television. We choose the frequency by selecting the channel, and
we then receive the pictures broadcast on that channel. If we want
to see different pictures on our television, we change the channel
and rune into a new frequency.

You are a human transmission tower, and you are more powerful
than any television tower created on earth. You are the most powerful
transmission tower in the Universe. Your transmission creates
your life and it creates the world. The frequency you transmit
reaches beyond cities, beyond countries, beyond the world. It reverberates
throughout the entire Universe. And you are transmitting
that frequency with your thoughts!

The pictures you receive from the transmission of your thoughts
are not on a television screen in your living room, they are the pictures
of your life! Your thoughts create the frequency, they attract
like things on that frequency, and then they are broadcast back to
you as your life pictures. If you want to change anything in your
life, change the channel and change the frequency by changing
your thoughts.

The law of attraction is a law of nature. It is impersonal and it does
not see good things or bad things. It is receiving your thoughts and
reflecting back to you those thoughts as your life experience. The law
of attraction simply gives you whatever it is you are thinking about.

The law of attraction is really obedient. When you think of the
things that you want, and you focus on them with all of your
intention, then the law of attraction will give you exactly
what you want, every time. When you focus on the things
that you don't want — "I don't want to be late, I don't want
to be late"—the law of attraction doesn't hear that you don't
want it. It manifests the things that you're thinking of and
so it's going to show up over and over and over again. The
law of attraction is not biased to wants or don't wants. When
you focus on something, no matter what it happens to be, you
really are calling that into existence.


The law of attraction is the law of creation. Quantum physicists tell
us that the entire Universe emerged from thought! You create your
life through your thoughts and the law of attraction, and every
single person does the same. It doesn't just work if you know about
it. It has always been working in your life and every other person's
life throughout history. When you become aware of this great law,
then you become aware of how incredibly powerful you are, to be
able to THINK your life into existence.

The law of attraction is always working, whether you believe
it or understand it or not.

Part 2 to continue……….

The power of visualization

One of the techniques that Morris Goodman and Dr. Ian Gawler used
to crystallize their beliefs and aid their spontaneous
recovery was through the use of creative visualization.
Goodman, for example, kept visualizing himself in the future,
fully recovered and walking around with no mechanical aid. He
kept visualizing himself having total control over his reflexes
and bodily movements.


But can seeing pictures in our mind actually affect our
physiological responses? Absolutely!

In fact, medical science has now shown that the human
mind cannot tell the difference between actual experience and
what is vividly imagined. Whether you physically see, hear,
touch or taste something or you vividly imagine it, the same
neurological impulses are activated within our nervous system.

Many people have made use of the power of visualization to help
them to perform at their peak. This is especially so in the area of
competitive sports where this technique is known as ‘mental
rehearsal’.


For many years, the Russians had always won and dominated
the gymnastics event in the Olympic games. The Americans
trained just as hard and could not understand how the Russians
were always able to perform at near perfection. It was much later
that the Americans found out that the Russians had used sports
psychologists to teach their athletes to train mentally as well as
physically.

Besides physically practicing, the Russians’ secret was in
spending a few hours a day to visualize themselves doing the
perfect jumps, twists and landings. It was this that allowed them
to tune their performances to near perfection! Today, all top
athletes use the power of visualization to perform at their peak.
In his book, Tiger Woods talks about how he visualizes himself
hitting the perfect ball and watching it land, even before he
actually swings his club.