Take Absolute Responsibility for Your Results! by Adam Khoo

"He made me angry."

"My kids are driving me crazy."

"My unappreciative boss is driving me to a nervous breakdown".

The statements above have one thing in common; blaming others and
not taking responsibility for one's state

As long as blame is cast outside ourselves, our states will be out
of our control. Most people allow their emotions to run their lives
which results in them feeling powerlessness and helplessness.

If you are upset, you are choosing to be upset. If you are excited,
you are choosing to be excited. Remember, no one can affect how you
feel unless you allow them to. The moment you realize this, you can
choose to feel differently.

For example, if you get fired unfairly, you can choose to feel
depressed and wallow in self-pity. You can also choose to be all
fired up making a success of yourself, letting your ex company
regret their decision in firing you!

In fact, some of the greatest companies in the world were built by
men who were motivated to get back at their ex-companies for firing
them.

The most famous example is what Lee Iacocca did when Henry Ford 11
fired him (a personality clash). He simply left and joined a rival
motor company (Chrysler), turned that ailing company into a direct
rival and competitor of Ford.

Another example is the actions that Ivana Trump took when real
estate magnet Donald Trump dumped her for a younger woman. Instead
of drowning her 'loss' with alcohol, anti depressants and wrecking
her health, she made herself more glamorous publicly announcing to
other wronged wives, "Don't get mad, get even!" and eventually
proceeded to wrestling a mega settlement from him.

A point to take note off, taking absolute responsibility for
whatever happens does not mean blaming oneself. Taking
responsibility and blaming yourself is totally different. Some
people blame themselves for everything - and that is not a useful
pattern.

By blaming yourself, you beat yourself up only to find yourself
feeling helpless and depressed. "It's my fault that I'm so stupid,
I really screwed up again."

This is not what taking responsibility is all about. Taking
responsibility means acknowledging the fact that the choices you
made in the past have contributed to your present situation.

Instead of feeling bad, place yourself in a state of possibility by
putting the choice back in your own hands.

The key elements that drive our actions and results are the
emotional states we experience. When we feel excited and motivated,
we are more likely to take action that will lead to great results.

But when we are upset and depressed, we rarely make good decisions
or do anything productive

Successful individuals choose to feel empowered and positive even
in the most dire of circumstances. This is how they feel constantly
motivated to improve their situation.

People who are in control of their lives believe they create their
world. If everything is going great, then they created it, not
anyone else. If things are not going well, then they created it as
well. From this moment onwards, start taking responsibility for
your feelings and results.